Thoughts on the Word “Normal”

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This has come up frequently in the comments but I had yet to make a proper post about it for some reason, so I’m remedying that now: I have problems with the word “normal” in […]

Carnival of Aces February Round-Up

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Aannddd we’re back with the Carnival of Aces, this time with the round-up of submissions!  (You can view the original call for submissions HERE). Thanks to everyone who submitted this month!(Also my apologies to everyone […]

(CoA Guest Submission, by Rachel) Laotong as QPRs: An Aro Ace Analysis of Snow Flower and the Secret Fan

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This is a Carnival of Aces submission by the same author as the previous post/submission. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I was around 15 or so, a sophomore in high school, when I read Snow Flower and the Secret […]

(CoA Guest Submission, by Rachel) Spy x Family: A Sweet Asexual Marriage

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This is a Carnival of Aces submission I was asked to post for someone, in case the title didn’t make clear who the author is. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ So Spy x Family came out in 2022 and […]

CoA Guest Submission: We Need Aro and Ace Kids’ Books

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Hey all! This is a Carnival of Aces submission I was asked to post for someone who doesn’t have their own blog and wanted to remain anonymous. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a children’s librarian. I am […]

Call for Submissions: February Carnival of Aces

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Hi all! This month, I’m the host for February’s Carnival of Aces.  From the Asexual Agenda: “A Carnival of Aces is a monthly blogging carnival centered on the asexual spectrum (asexuals, gray-As, demisexuals, etc.).  Anyone […]

Why Everyone Can Benefit From the Aspec Perspective

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A lot of people see being asexual and/or aromantic as sad, or something to be pitied or fixed.  In reality though, the kinds of things we question and discuss regarding social expectations actually benefit everyone, […]

What Not to Say to Your Ace and/or Aro Friend

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I’ve addressed in past posts some of the stereotypes and problematic comments ace/aro people get – [Is Asexuality a Psychological Disorder for medicalization, Question Your Questioning for several of them ranging from medicalization again to […]

Question Your Questioning (of Other People)

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Hello everyone!  Today’s topic is “How to Talk to Aspecs as an Allo Person” (or anyone who’s tempted to question them, since some skeptics may themselves be aspec in some way without knowing it).  (Allo […]

How do I Know I’m Really Ace (or Aro)?

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I recently saw a question in an ace group I’m part of, which gets asked kind of frequently: how old do you have to be before you can definitely be sure you’re ace?  What if […]