Aspec Nonfiction Books

If you’re looking for books to read about asexuality and/or aromanticism, this is the place for you. The Aroace Database is a great resource if you’re looking for fiction, but I have yet to locate a central resource for nonfiction, so I’ve collected and maintained my own list.

Guidelines for using it:
It’s sorted first by publication date because I find it a fascinating representation of awareness to see how recently it’s been that the body of literature has started to grow, and then alphabetically by title in the case of multiple works sharing a publication year.
This is simply a factual list of what’s available. Inclusion on the list does not equal an endorsement or a statement on my part as to a work’s quality. (Also I personally only speak English, so that perspective does influence what I do and don’t find to put on here.)
If a work is not included, that just means I don’t know about it yet. You are more than welcome to alert me to its existence at so I can remedy that :).

Title:Author:Publication Date:Notes:
Asexuality: A Brief IntroductionAsexuality Archive2012
Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law (Studies in Feminist Philosophy)Elizabeth Brake2012The origin of the term “amatonormativity”
Asexuality and Sexual Normativity: An AnthologyMark Carrigan (Editor), Kristina Gupta (Editor), Todd Morrison (Editor)2014“This unique volume collects a diverse range of interdisciplinary empirical and theoretical work… originally published as a special issue of Psychology and Sexuality”
The Invisible Orientation: An Intro to AsexualityJulie Sondra Decker2014The 101
Ace & Proud: An Asexual AnthologyA K Andrews2015
Ace Inclusion Guide for High SchoolsAsexual Outreach2015For HS faculty, staff, and student leaders to make school more inclusive for ace students
Ace of Hearts: A Journey to Embracing the Asexual IdentityCaryn Purdy2015
The Love and Sex Life of an Aromantic AsexualLaurel Federbush201542 page autobiography
Understanding Asexuality (2nd ed.)Anthony Bogaert2015I’m assuming this is the Bogaert everyone loves to cite on the 1% stat. There is a 1st edition from 2012 as well.
Asexualities: Feminist and Queer PerspectivesKarli June Cerankowski (Editor), Megan Milks (Editor)2016“What is so radical about not having sex? To answer this question, this collection of essays explores the feminist and queer politics of asexuality”
All That We Are: The Asexuality Spectrum, or Love Without SexNatasja Rose2017“This is a collection of anecdotes, ranging from discovering your sexuality, to common misconceptions and prejudice, and basic definitions of the different terms”
Asexuality. Asexuality Guide. Asexuality book about understanding the sexual orientation, tips, myths and misconceptions.Correy Luckton2017
Asexual Perspectives: 47 Asexual Stories: LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITYSandra Bellamy2017
Aro Eros Arrows (Integrated Non-Monogamy)Michon Neal2018“For Black queer aros”
I Fell in Love with an Asexual: Navigating Needs Without Blame When You Like Sex, Your Partner Doesn’t, & Asexuality Is a PossibilityDave Wheitner2018By/for the more sexual partner in an allo/ace or high/low interest relationship, rather than aces
Asexual Erotics: Intimate Readings of Compulsory Sexuality (Abnormativities: Queer/Gender/Embodiment)Ela Pryzbylo2019Addressing the lack of asexual consideration in feminist / queer work
Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of SexAngela Chen2020How ace concepts benefit society as a whole
How to Be Ace: A Memoir of Growing Up AsexualRebecca Burgess2020Graphic novel memoir
How to Write Asexual Characters: An Incomplete GuideSalt and Sage Books2020For fiction writers who want to know how to write ace characters
A Little Book of Ace: learning more about asexualityClara Dehlin2021
Ace Voices: What It Means to Be Asexual, Aromantic, Demi or Grey AceEris Young2022
AsexualJeremy Quist2022Looks like an introduction to the identity for teens?
Asexuality and Freudian-Lacanian Psychoanalysis: Towards a Theory of an EnigmaKevin Murphy2022“Proposes that asexuality is a libidinally founded desire for no sexual desire, a concept not included in psychoanalytic theory up to now.”
A Quick and Easy Guide to AsexualityMolly Muldoon2022
Refusing Compulsory Sexuality: A Black Asexual Lens on our Sex-Obsessed CultureSherronda J Brown2022
I Am Ace: Advice on Living Your Best Asexual LifeCody Daigle-OriansFeb 2023
Sounds Fake But Okay: An Asexual and Aromantic Perspective on Love, Relationships, Sex, and Pretty Much Anything ElseKayla Kaszyca & Sarah CostelloFeb 2023
Ace Notes: Tips and Tricks on Existing in an Allo WorldMichele KirichanskayaMarch 2023Also incorporates practical advice for aces who are interested in sex, rather than sending them elsewhere for that
ACE and ARO Journeys: A Guide to Embracing Your Asexual or Aromantic IdentityAce and Aro Advocacy ProjectApril 2023
Asexuality and Romantic Relationship NegotiationLoraine UptonMay 2023
Amazing Ace, Awesome Aro: An Illustrated ExplorationVictoria BarronJune 2023Includes quizzes and activity sheets
Hopeless Aromantic: An Affirmative Guide to AromanticismSamantha RendleJuly 2023
Ending the Pursuit: Asexuality, Aromanticism and Agender IdentityMichael ParamoFebruary 2024
The Ace and Aro Relationship GuideCody Daigle-OriansFall 2024
[Book about Aromanticism]AUREAEnd of 2025 maybe?