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Sounds Fake But Okay Book Review

I just read Kayla Kaszyca and Sarah Costello’s Sounds Fake But Okay: An Asexual and Aromantic Perspective on Love, Relationships, Sex, and Pretty Much Anything Else over the weekend, and wanted to share my thoughts […]

Why it’s Important to Explicitly Acknowledge Neurotypical Perspectives

I got involved in a comment discussion on this post by sildarmillion this week about the lack of nuance in otherwise useful advice like “listen to your body,” and she said something that perfectly summarized […]

The Info People Are Missing When They Think About Autism

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One of my favorite resources is the “Autistic Not Weird 2022 Autism Survey” – a survey which collected responses from 11,212 respondents, of whom about ⅔ (7,491) were autistic, about everything from preferred terminology to […]

What Asexuality Means to Me

(No image this month because my internet is lagging badly tonight and I’m not staying up late just to wait for Pexels to load things.) This month’s Carnival of Aces topic is “asexuality and orientation,” […]

We Need More Focus on Aromanticism

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This month’s Carnival of Aros has the theme “Being aromantic in an allonormative world,” which got me thinking about some facts I discovered about aromantic representation compared to asexual representation when I was doing my […]

Why Do Autistic People Die Earlier?

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Well, I didn’t intend to start with such a heavy topic when I haven’t really established a history of writing about autism yet, but I’ve wanted to write this ever since I wrote a research […]

How I Figured Out I’m Asexual + A Christian Ace Experience

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I’ve been so focused on my university graduation in two weeks / life transition stuff that I failed to connect the passage of time to “Oh, I should write a post by today,” so since […]

Thoughts on the Word “Normal”

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This has come up frequently in the comments but I had yet to make a proper post about it for some reason, so I’m remedying that now: I have problems with the word “normal” in […]

Carnival of Aces February Round-Up

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Aannddd we’re back with the Carnival of Aces, this time with the round-up of submissions! (You can view the original call for submissions HERE). Thanks to everyone who submitted this month!(Also my apologies to everyone […]

(CoA Guest Submission, by Rachel) Laotong as QPRs: An Aro Ace Analysis of Snow Flower and the Secret Fan

This is a Carnival of Aces submission by the same author as the previous post/submission. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I was around 15 or so, a sophomore in high school, when I read Snow Flower and the Secret […]