Asexuality - Writing For Life

How to Write Asexual & Aromantic Characters

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Hi all! A few years ago I was a panelist at the Scribes and Scribblers Convention, on how to write asexual and aromantic characters. I decided to rework my slides into a written guide for […]

Labels: Helpful or Hurtful?

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A conversation topic that I’ve seen come up a lot, both in the context of asexuality/aromanticism with their stacks of microlabels and autism where there’s the question of “should I tell this person they probably […]

Sounds Fake But Okay Book Review

I just read Kayla Kaszyca and Sarah Costello’s Sounds Fake But Okay: An Asexual and Aromantic Perspective on Love, Relationships, Sex, and Pretty Much Anything Else over the weekend, and wanted to share my thoughts […]

What Asexuality Means to Me

(No image this month because my internet is lagging badly tonight and I’m not staying up late just to wait for Pexels to load things.) This month’s Carnival of Aces topic is “asexuality and orientation,” […]

We Need More Focus on Aromanticism

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This month’s Carnival of Aros has the theme “Being aromantic in an allonormative world,” which got me thinking about some facts I discovered about aromantic representation compared to asexual representation when I was doing my […]

How I Figured Out I’m Asexual + A Christian Ace Experience

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I’ve been so focused on my university graduation in two weeks / life transition stuff that I failed to connect the passage of time to “Oh, I should write a post by today,” so since […]

Thoughts on the Word “Normal”

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This has come up frequently in the comments but I had yet to make a proper post about it for some reason, so I’m remedying that now: I have problems with the word “normal” in […]

Carnival of Aces February Round-Up

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Aannddd we’re back with the Carnival of Aces, this time with the round-up of submissions! (You can view the original call for submissions HERE). Thanks to everyone who submitted this month!(Also my apologies to everyone […]

(CoA Guest Submission, by Rachel) Laotong as QPRs: An Aro Ace Analysis of Snow Flower and the Secret Fan

This is a Carnival of Aces submission by the same author as the previous post/submission. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I was around 15 or so, a sophomore in high school, when I read Snow Flower and the Secret […]

(CoA Guest Submission, by Rachel) Spy x Family: A Sweet Asexual Marriage

This is a Carnival of Aces submission I was asked to post for someone, in case the title didn’t make clear who the author is. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ So Spy x Family came out in 2022 and […]